read a very good blog yesterday and got me to thinking that we really, in fact, tell out the word love without giving much thoughts about what sort of contract we are commiting ourselves into...i for that matter don't know much about love and to me saying out the words i love you should be..impulsive...said at the moment u just wished that person would be yours and you just felt that you want to do everything within your power to make this person happy...but i was wrong.
dont get me wrong its not because i got my heart broken again hence this post, on the contrary, i actually have been having super happy feelings recently..haha
coupled with too much time in hand, i sat and thought about under what circumstances do you have, the right to tell a person i love you...here goes..
1) u are ready to be in a relationship with this person without thinking of the "what ifs"...like what if someone better comes along..nobody is perfect...but to the person u r saying i love you to...he/she is perfect.
2) you would go through thick and thin with this person regardless of whatever crisis he/she faces...eg: you do not dump a guy after he losses his job and all financial security....you motivate him to move on and tell him, that the reason he should be stronger is cz u r b his side. but then again one must be caution because some people are leeches and are more than happy if you are willing to bring the bacon home.but that aside...be there for this person and believe in them.
3) you have selfless love in you for this person.all you want is for this person to be happy, with or without you in his/her life.
4) you love every single thing in this person, from the way this person laughs, his slang, his hair, ths way he sounds in the morning after waking up ...even up to the way he gets angry and wiggles his way to get an apology frm u...u like and love evrything about him...and cant imagine a day without the presence of this person in your life..
5) that you know that this person isn't just to cure your lonely life or a replacement for a previous heartbreak...when you know that if this person choose not to be in your life you would not even think of being with another...because no one can replace him..
and so many more....
but then again different people have different perspective in love and that's fine. but if two people possibly thinking of getting into a relationship together have different definitions in love...can it work? im not talking about a fling here people...im talkin long term investment, i want to marry you n hv little babies, that sort of thing...
2 people with totally different personalities can make a relationship work due to the excitment of discovering each other...its refreshing and interesting...but different point of views in a relationship? how about that?
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